Every relationship has its ups and downs. While having these moments of crisis, it is important to identify the reasons behind them and act on them in a timely manner.
While in the heat of the moment it might seem like it’s time to call it quits, these seven solutions can help you save your relationship and build an even stronger foundation.
1. Take time to communicate
Communication involves spending some face-to-face time, away from all the distractions, including your work and social media. Listen to what the other person has to say instead defending yourself. Don’t interrupt until your partner has finished speaking. Avoid using phrases like “You always ..”, “I wasn’t wrong …” or “You never …”. Such phrases show that you aren’t really listening and believe that you aren’t at fault. Be quiet, pay attention, nod often, and use your body language to show that you are listening.
2. Be Honest
When things go south, we tend to cover up our mistakes and justify our actions. But in fact, we should be doing the opposite.
If you have made a mistake, don’t hide it because of the fear of repercussions. Own up to it and tell your partner what really happened. While they may resent you in the beginning, they will appreciate your honesty and come to terms with the situation.
Also, it’s always better they hear it from you rather than someone else.
3. Prioritize your relationship
While it’s easy to get caught up in your own life, making an effort to focus on the relationship is one of the most important reasons why relationships thrive.
No matter how busy life gets, plan activities together and spend time out for each other. Movie night, date night, weekend getaways, and even small, thoughtful gifts can go a long way.
Give compliments and celebrate your special moments. Show that you still truly care.
4. Respect one another
There comes a time when you start believing what you do or think is more important. This is dangerous.
Relationships thrive on mutual respect. Respect your partner’s job, lifestyle, beliefs, principles, and opinions, even if they differ from yours. At the very least, spend some time to understand what your partner does and how they feel. That shows you’re making an effort out of respect.
5. Don’t let money drive a wedge between you
Issues with money in a relationship often lead to nasty fights and pointing fingers at the lifestyle of the other person isn’t unsupportive and not recommended.
If your financial situation isn’t good, then be ready to make some lifestyle changes instead of simply expecting the other person to change theirs. Sit together, and map out your financial situation with pure honesty. Decide which person will be responsible for handling which costs and what would each person be willing to give up. Set some money aside for each of you to spend at your discretion. No one likes to constantly account for every single penny they spend.
6. Don’t fight over household chores
Most couples in relationships have work outside of their homes. Expecting one partner to take care of all household chores is unrealistic. Instead, map out your respective jobs while at home.
Often, there are chores that neither partner likes to take up. In such cases, be open to considering other options, or taking turns doing the chore in question.
This is how you can be organized and fair to one another, eventually avoiding any resentment building up over time.
7. Build trust
When a loved one does something unexpected that ends up hurting us, we feel betrayed and don’t trust the other person anymore. Trust is critical to any relationship.
If you and your partner don’t trust each other, make an effort to build it. Be consistent, truthful, and deliver on your promises. Don’t dig up old wounds. Consider everything you say as once you’ve said something hurtful, you cannot take it back.
There are always problems in any relationship. But if you pay attention and take some measures to resolve your issues, you can save your relationship. Be realistic, caring, understanding, and willing to do what it takes to fix your relationship.