As you grow older, your relationship with your parents changes dramatically. It’s a change that’s painful and wonderful at the same time. A mother-child relationship is even more special and complicated because no one understands their child better than mothers do.
Mothers play a huge role in how their childs behave and deal with their emotions. A boy raised well by a mother will exhibit the following traits:
Emotionally strong and independent
Boys who share a healthy relationship with their mothers ever since they were children grow up to be emotionally intelligent. Through their mothers, these boys learn how to love, cherish, and accept someone unconditionally. The mothers become their confidante and they learn how to trust someone, be vulnerable, and say what’s truly on their minds. Such boys grow up to be emotionally strong, and capable of loving people.
Doesn’t fall prey to male stereotypes
When raised by their mothers, boys don’t easily believe in the male stereotypes of being tough and having to prove their masculinity. These boys are quite confident in being who they are.
Boys raised by their mothers also learn to love, respect and appreciate their mothers as well as other women in general as they don’t have any superiority issues with their female counterparts.
How does a mother-child relationship evolve over the years?
The mother is the first perchild with whom a child establishes his first physical and emotional relationship. Here’s how this relationship evolves over the years:
As a child, the child depends on his mother for all his needs
As a baby, the child picks up his first emotions from the mother. As he grows up, he depends on his mother for all his needs. When the mother shows love and care, the child feels safer and learns to trust people and begins shaping his emotional strengths and behaviours.
As a teenager, he is discovering his perchildality and identity
Teenage is a tough time as the child is going through physical and emotional changes. He’s also slowly discovering his character, perchildality, and identity. It’s a time when a child needs someone to talk to, guide him, and show him how to make choices. However, it’s also a time he wishes to be treated as an adult and as such, involving him in family discussions and decisions makes him feel more accepted, appreciated and respected.
As an adult, he is trying to build his own world
As an adult, the child is busy chasing his passions and dreams and building his career. He needs his mother to counsel him not just on career choices, but also on relationships. At this stage, he’s looking for realistic and practical advice from his mother.
The behaviour of the child at every stage of his life somehow reflects the nurturing he received and the emotions he picked up from his mother. That’s why it’s important for mothers to love and support their childs and adapt it as the children grow.