The word patience comes from the Latin word pati which means to suffer. So, patience means suffering- a minor form of despair often referred as a virtue.

Those who have the quality of being willing to bear adversities, calm endurance of misfortune, suffering etc. are bestowed with being patient. Such type of people has to control their emotions or impulses and proceed in a cool, calm composed, collected and confident manner when faced with difficulties. They tolerate delay, waiting or frustration due to failure without becoming agitated or upset to the core.

Patience comes with maturity. Maturity comes with positive attitude not age alone. I have seen aged people resorting to unmerited firing as they cannot hold the AK47 of their conscious thoughts from unmerited firing and destroy the mutual peace.

Benefits of Developing Patience:

Helps in reducing stress levels: As we progress in age, we learn and practice patience, so as to control anger, stress or overwhelming in a better manner. Slowly and surely, we are more in control of our emotions and in a better position to deal with difficult situations with ease and poise. This promotes success in succession and makes us a happier, healthier person.

Promote better decision-making: When you are patient you take the time to assess the situation, see the big picture, and weigh any pros and cons. The chances of making a big mistake lessen because you avoid making it in haste. Taking the time to solve a problem requires patience and meaningful deliberations.

Patience brings empathy and compassion: You are automatically more patient and compassionate with others when you are patient. Patience helps to determine the processes to overcome obstacles so they are solved in time one after another. Definitely, this results in better, more fulfilling relationships with our seniors, juniors, peers, partners, friends and children.

Have a patience day once a week: Let one day in a week be your patience day, where you make patience your goal for the entire day. Make a concerted effort to take your time and hold your nerve by not losing temper. At the end of the day, review all the ways in which you’ve made smarter moves; that is got along better with others and exhibited patience through out the day. Then learn to do it on a daily basis. It will not be out of place to mention that patience is much like a daily physical exercise because it requires persistence, consistent effort.

Anger test our patience. Count ten in reverse order before you speak. Take deep breaths and exhale with pursed lips and you will control your temper as the wave of getting berserk will be over.

Hold your nerve: In case you are always in a tearing hurry and have the tendency to rush around and try to hurry things up or always want things done immediately and can’t wait for things to take their normal and natural course, then the wise act is to stop and review/evaluate the happenings and environment around you. Take several deep breaths before you act or make a move. For example, if you’re in a long line up at the grocery store or in heavy traffic, make the decision to pause and not get mixed up. Do listen to the radio, music of your choice, read a book or just enjoy the view. Getting impatient won’t make things better, so no need to get worked up for nothing.

Rethink before you speak: At times we blurt out the first anger laden thought that comes into our heads without considering the consequences. The wise thing is to show patience, take a pause and go over what we want to say. Reverse counting one to ten and chances are, we can avoid hurting or offending others save our inner peace. Teach our children to be patient: To teach our children, we have to lead our kids by example not by lectures. It is easy for children to pick it up as a habit when they are growing up.

Patience and discipline comes hand in hand: Patience could be a habit taught at a younger age.

It is damn easy to give any color of your choice to a white piece of cloth: and you know black does not take any other hue. If a child is brought up impatient, it means more difficult for such a child when grown up to dovetail with patience. Genetics and patience: Like father, like son.Some experts say, patience is an inherited trait that gradually shows up as we get older. But, as the years go by I have seen for myself to have more of it. But do remember that half of our characteristics are learned from the environment we are raised in. This means you can successfully change anything about yourself. It’s not all hereditary.

Can patience be learned: Daily we learn it the hard way from repercussions resulting from our impatience. And we can also learn it proactively through meditation and patience building habits like checking facts, going through a checklist before a decision, reminding yourself to think beyond the immediate scenario.

Patience is very difficult at times: This is the sole reason why it is repeatedly said that” patience is a virtue”. Unfortunately, we the people, go over the hill during our inter -communications and lack a lot of it. Patience is doing something about the situation and wait for the result of what you did to fix it. We need patience in everything. Whether in losing weight, quitting smoking, raising children et al. Keep in mind, that patience will work successfully if you give it the time it needs.

Anything worthwhile and of importance, in our lives, does not take place right away. It takes time, dedication and consistent, persistent effort to achieve in this vying age of competition.; though patience is definitely a great virtue.”

Time is a big factor in being patient, so develop ways to be patient when dealing with waiting or delay. Just get your mind occupied with things that you like to do and makes you happy. Patience is a good thing and good things happen to those who keep on improving. Those who are patient have a better chance get the best of what they deserve. If you try to learn to be patient, the world like you. Be patient, and that patience will not be wasted . It will be rewarded. It is the key to success. It is the Smart thing to practice. Better Patience Better Success.

 

Prof. Surinder
Kochhar (Shaun)

LPN, FCN, M.Com, CAIIB, DIM
(A freelance writer with
36 Years Exp.)