Keeping it interesting Being engaged with kids, careers and outside commitments, it can be difficult to stay connected to your partner. Yet there are good reasons to continue to make the effort. To keep things interesting, some couples plan regular date nights or vacations. Experts recommend breaking out of the routine and trying new things — whether that’s going dancing, taking a class together or packing an afternoon picnic. Intimacy is also a critical component of romantic relationship between Happy Couples.

When should couples seek outside help? Every relationship has ups and downs, but some factors are more likely than others to create speed breakers in a relationship. Finances and parenting decisions often create recurring conflicts. One sign of a problem is having repeated versions of the same fight over and over. In such cases, psychologists can help couples improve communication and find healthy ways to move beyond the conflict. Though, the best way to remain in your relationship is to keep other people out of your relationship. In case the relationship, despite all the remedial measures, continues to be unfulfilling/life threatening, then the time is ripe to take a decision to split rather than to suffer from indecision. A bad decision is better than indecision because normally every decision has fifty percent chances to succeed and a very late decision is as bad as indecision. If the situation warrants it, couples should not have to wait until a relationship shows signs of trouble before working to strengthen relationship. Marital education programs that teach skills such as good communication, effective listening and dealing with conflict have been shown to reduce the risk of final separation. Your partner is a friend in whom you repose unconditionally. Always keep the communication channel open. The worst type of communication is “no communication”.The best type of communication is clarification. Apologize, if you are even partially in the wrong. Apologizing does not necessarily mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.

The relationship between a husband and a wife should be one of the closest of friends. True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable. A relationship is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the partner we choose. In the case of Happy Couples, the other half is NEVER above or below the other. Always beside the other. Happy living!!!!

 

Prof. Surinder
Kochhar (Shaun)

LPN, FCN, M.Com, CAIIB, DIM
(A freelance writer with
36 Years Exp.)